Relationship Rescue 101

When your relationship ends badly, just how do you deal with a bad break up?  You can’t just go on with your life pretending that everything is OK when it clearly isn’t.  It just isn’t healthy to deny what you are feeling and keep those feelings bottled up inside.  You have to allow yourself to feel the hurt, in fact it is really necessary for you to be able to move on with your life.

You should handle your feelings in a healthy way.  If you are feeling anger, it is not a good idea to go and threaten or hurt your ex because of your anger.  There are better ways to handle your feelings.

It will take time to get over your ex and for the feelings of hurt and anger to go away.  You will be able to move on faster if you use the time constructively and use it as a learning experience in relationship skills.  This will be a much healthier way for you to deal with the bad break up and will also benefit you in future relationships.

Take a few days to feel your pain, but do put a time limit on it.  You don’t want to fall into a depression because you can’t get over the hurt and pain that you are feeling.  You will feel anger at some point and there are some ways to let that anger out without hurting anyone.

If you are really angry with your ex then take a picture of them and put it on the wall.  Buy some marshmallows and use the marshmallows as darts to throw at the picture.  Throw the marshmallows as hard as you can and while you throw them yell at your ex and tell him/her exactly what you think and what you are feeling.  Let it all out!  It might sound silly to throw marshmallows at a picture but it really is a great way to get out your anger and frustrations.  You may even find yourself laughing and much happier when you have finished.

If you find yourself laughing after the marshmallow challenge then you know that your troubles aren’t that bad and you will get past them.  You will realize that you will survive and that you can handle what you are going through.  Breaking up is not the end of the world, but a new beginning.  If the relationship has broken up then chances are you just aren’t meant to be together and now you can move on and find the real love of your life.

Don’t rush out and start dating straight away though or you may find yourself in another bad relationship because it is a rebound relationship.  Take some time to enjoy life being single and enjoy who you are for yourself and not for someone else.  You will be much stronger now that you have used this bad break up as a learning experience and have improved your own self esteem and confidence.  Your future relationships will be much stronger and happier.

If you are going through a break up, it’s never much fun. Even if the two of you split up on friendly terms, there will be some bad feelings. You will feel hurt, angry, guilty and confused. Such emotions are to be expected, but there is one feeling that may be harder to deal with, and that is how to get over someone you love.

Before you start trying to get over your ex, you need to make sure that’s what you really want to do. Your emotions will be running high after a break up, and it’s easy to confuse one feeling for another. So, it’s very possible that the reason you can’t get over them is because you don’t want to…you just think you do.

Yes, it can be confusing, so you need to calm down first. You need to let the dust of the broken relationship settle for a while before you make any permanent decisions. There is always a chance that you will realize that you want to try to work things out. However, for the rest of this article, we will assume that you have already thought it through and now you need to know how to get over someone you love.

Getting your ex out of your mind can be tricky, but it is possible. A lot of amateurs in giving out relationship advice will tell you to focus on all of the bad stuff your ex did. The thinking here is that hating them will erase them from your memory, but the opposite is true. It will only amplify their memory and it’s not fair to your ex.

A better way is to forgive your ex for all of the bad stuff they may have done. This will take away any of the power they still seem to have over you. It will also allow you to start moving forward with your own life, which takes us to the next step.

While you won’t be able to completely erase the memory of your ex from your mind, you can overpower it for a while. The way to do this is to go out and life your life to the fullest extent possible. The more things you have to occupy your time, and occupy your mind, the less space there will be for you to think about your former partner.

Finally, when it comes to how to get over someone you love ,you need to be realistic. It isn’t about forgetting about them 100%. After all, if you had good memories together, you should be able to look back on those in the future. But, you need to be able to move forward, so it’s important to get them out of your mind, especially right after the break up. Then, after a bit of time goes by you can start to think about them in a healthy, well-adjusted manner and without it making you feel really upset.

When you find yourself saying “I lost love” it can hit you like a train. I know when you come to that realisation that it can feel like life is not worth living anymore, everything seems pointless and empty and it may seem like you will never be happy again. I think most of us have been there before.

Don’t give up though, no matter how impossible it may seem that you will be happy again, you can be. I am not saying that it will be easy or that you won’t go through a lot of pain… you will. I am just saying that you can find love and happiness again and the better you deal with your breakup the faster you may recover from it.

I am not an expert but I have been through it before and I may be able to offer you a little advice. Here are some ideas I have used myself to help me get over my pain as quickly as possible. Some of my ideas may just help you.

1. Give yourself as much time as you need. I remember that once I heard someone say that you should allow yourself to grief over your lost love for one week for every year the two of you were together. Personally, I think that is the dumbest thing I have ever heard.

There is no formula for determining how long it will take you to feel like you have moved on and can be happy again. Everyone is different and every relationship is different. For the most part, it will take as long as it takes.

I do have to say one thing though, if you find that you simply don’t seem to be bouncing back even a little bit after several months, you may be suffering from depression and you may need a little extra help to get back to your old self. If that is the case, find a counselor who can help you out, you don’t need to suffer unnecessarily.

2. While you are healing, be kind to yourself. Allow yourself to enjoy the things that made you feel good before (as long as they are positive things). If you used to enjoy hanging out with your friends, than hang out with your friends.

If you used to enjoy working out then workout. Just spend your time and energy engaging in positive things that make you feel good about yourself and life in general.

If you can forget about your pain for a while, than that just has to be a bonus.

3. If you have been planning on doing something such as take a class or go on vacation, do it now. It may be just the thing you need to keep your mind active. While it will take you as long as it takes you to move on, there is no one to say that you have to stay inside your home dwelling on your pain the whole time.

Most of us have, or will have said the words “I lost love” at some point in our lives. It’s a horrible experience to go through, but how we handle it can help determine how soon we will be able to move on with our lives and find that love is out there for us when we are ready.