Relationship Rescue 101

July 17th, 2013

Try this!

If you say that you need some relationship rescue help, then take heart as there are a lot of things you can do. Remember, you are not alone and there is a wealth of experience out there for you to draw on.  For instance, there are many self-help guides out there, or you could just try to talk to friends or perhaps see a therapist if things get really bad, tell them “I need help saving my relationship”. The main thing is that before you get help, it’s important that you take some time to determine if you are really willing to act on the advice you are given.

Here are a couple things to think about:

Firstly, what has brought your relationship to this point and how much of it has been your fault?  Owning up to your own issues is the first step to mending your relationship. Until both parties are willing to admit their own shortcomings and are willing to find solutions, than the relationship won’t work.

Secondly, are you both mature enough to not only face your own issues, but to make the changes you need to for your relationship to succeed?  Many people aren’t strong enough to deal with their problems, they find it so much easier to just point fingers and blame their partner.

Third, are you and your partner willing to forgive and forget?  If either of you would rather be ‘right’ all the time, then just move on from here as it’s unlikely that the relationship will flourish or be fulfilling. To make things work you have to both be willing to move forward together and let go of some of the hurt and the anger from the past.

Lastly, are you and your partner able (and willing) to keep a positive outlook and keep plugging away and trying to fix the problems in your relationship?  Unless you are both 100% committed to being in this for the long haul, your relationship is unlikely to succeed. It’s likely to take the two of you some time to break old, bad habits and replace them with better habits.

If you ask for help saying,”I need help saving my relationship”, the first thing you should do is to honestly ask the questions above.  If you don’t think you can follow through on these issues (or you don’t think your partner will), you may not be able to salvage your relationship and it may be time for the two of you to go your separate ways as attempts at a relationship rescue will not succeed.

For more advice on a variety of relationship issues we recommend the Magic of Making Up.

Healing A Broken Relationship

June 18th, 2013

If you are thinking about healing a broken relationship it is not always easy to do what is necessary. The hardest two words in any language are to say “I’m sorry”. However, by learning to say those two words, and really meaning it, you can do a lot to salvage an otherwise good relationship that has spiralled way out of control.

We always have a much easier time seeing other people’s faults than we do our own.  Sure, I can tell you everything my spouse did wrong, you probably can say the same about yours, but what did YOU do wrong? Once you fully  accept responsibility for it, you will have taken the first step to pulling your relationship back from the edge of failure.

Of course, for this to be really effective, then both parties have to be willing to own up to and apologize for their bad behaviors. It won’t do much good to the overall well being of the relationship if only one person is big enough to admit they were wrong and make a concerted effort to change.

It is so important for each person to stay focused on what they did wrong and try to find ways to improve the destructive behavior, rather than just to expect the other person to change first. This happens so often in relationships: both partners are waiting for the other one to change, both want to be ‘right’ and neither one is willing to step up to the plate and go first.

The nice thing is that if you are willing to concentrate solely on you (which is really the only thing that you have control over changing anyway), than not only will you open the door to salvaging your relationship, you will also show your partner that you care enough about them and your relationship to do whatever needs to be done to salvage it.

Many men seem to have a particularly hard time admitting they’re wrong ( I don’t mean to be sexist), but men often equate apologizing with a form of weakness. Nothing could be further from the truth. It’s easy to go through life hurting others and refusing to admit you were wrong and apologize. The truly hard part, and the thing that proves you’re a strong man, is to be able to open yourself up enough to admit you were wrong. Try it once and see how hard it really can be.

The best advice on healing a broken relationship is simply to learn to apologize. You’ll be surprised what it can do.

Healing A Broken Heart – Pain May Be Inevitable

July 19th, 2012

When it comes to healing a broken heart, pain is one thing that many people do not realize that they have some control over how long it will take to feel better. When you’ve lost someone you’re in love with it hurts, and a lot. However, you don’t have to allow the pain to rule your life. As a matter of fact, when it comes to healing a broken heart it really can be a situation where mind over matter may be able to help you.

There is quite a bit of evidence to suggest that we have far more control over the emotions we feel than we give ourselves credit for. Most of us just drift along on with the current and assume that the things we feel in any given situation are just normal and that we just have to put up with them. However, that just is not the case.

For instance, when you have just gone through a tough breakup, by not allowing yourself to dwell on the past, you will find that moving on and even finding love again will happen much more quickly. And the really cool part, you will actually be able to move on properly and it won’t just be on the rebound. Now, learning to control your thoughts can be done, but it will take practice. You can train yourself to shut it off whenever you start to feel sad or lonely and focus on happier things.

It’s also important to realize, and this gets a little easier as we get older and have experienced it first hand, that you can love someone else and that you can be happy again. For many of us, the first time we find ourselves with a broken heart, we are convinced we’ll never love again, that our ex was ‘the one’. I know if you’re reading this right now that’s probably what you’re thinking, but the fact is that your ex was ‘a one’ and not necessarily ‘the one’.

If you allow yourself to, you can love again. True, the next person may not be the exact same as the last, but that doesn’t mean it won’t be just as good, it might just be different. That can be great, you can explore other aspects of who you are with someone new. As long as you are willing to do the things necessary for healing a broken heart pain, you will heal, and you will be able to love again.

This Is Your Day! Make Your Wedding The Best With These Tips!

March 23rd, 2014

Do you want a summer wedding or a winter wedding? Are you having a hard time choosing the flowers? There are so many things to consider and decisions to be made when you are planning a wedding. Whether you are the bride, the maid-of-honor, or just the power behind the scenes, the tips given below can help make the wedding a huge success.

You can not serve everyone’s favorite top-shelf drink or you would quickly exceed the price of the dress, so consider what you like, and what will keep you within your budget. Open bar is the most expensive option, and the longer the bar is open, the more expensive it becomes. Ask your venue about the different alcohol serving options that they have available.

TIP! Religion is most likely going to be a significant factor in not only your wedding, but your future marriage. Talking to your partner about his or her religion is important, but talking to the in-laws about their religion is essential, as well.

Spend quite a bit of time writing your vows so that they include all the things that are important to your union with your spouse. Realize that both you and your spouse-to-be are about to make the strongest commitment you can and it will require sacrifices of both parties. When you speak your vows, you want to let out in front of everyone just how much you truly love the person you’re marrying.

Do not place too many flowers on the tables at your wedding reception. Much of the time, table arrangements will just be in the guests’ way. Also, you must consider that a guest may be allergic to the flowers. Think about putting candles that aren’t scented onto the table. This can create a romantic look.

When choosing the location for your reception, make sure you have enough room for a dance floor. You can make room by moving some chairs and tables around when it’s time to dance, just make sure you find enough space for people to get their groove on.

TIP! When you decide who you want to give the speeches during the reception, ask them to read them to you so you know they are appropriate. Generally, many generations attend a wedding, so a joke that’s funny to young people may not be to the elders.

Brides who love luxury and fashion might select to sprinkle some sparkle in their bouquet through the use of diamond, crystals or rhinestones. For example, incorporate vintage brooches, Swarovski crystals or costume jewelry into the design. To avoid clashes with other parts of the bride’s wardrobe, ensure that the size, color, and cut of the stones are consistent.

A relative or friend can serve as your assistant, as often the only requirement for the job is being able to haul your gear. They can also help round up family members for group portraits.

Check to make sure that you can alter the lighting of the venue where the wedding reception will take place. This small detail allows for little things like low lights on the first dance, and bright for the duration of the event. Be sure to ask the if the venue has this feature before you commit to it.

TIP! If you need to look great on your wedding day but money is a bit tight, then considering renting rather than buying any diamonds used in the wedding. By renting jewelry instead of buying, you can get the look that you dreamed of for your wedding day without having to spend thousands of dollars.

After reading these tips, it’s safe to say that you probably weren’t aware of even half of these ideas. And that’s because no one ever realizes just how much goes into planning a wedding until they’re actually staring at it in the face. A wedding is perhaps the most detail-oriented celebration out there, so be sure that you’re using these tips to help you out.

When Your Boyfriend Wants To Take A Break

August 18th, 2013

There are several reasons why your boyfriend might want to take a break, some of which might be the fact that he wants some space, he wants to be alone for a short while, or he might need to think. There are some things you can do to help the situation including talking it over with him, starting from the beginning, planning a night alone from each other, and agreeing and taking advantage of it.

Sometimes your boyfriend might feel smothered. If you are constantly asking him where he is at, continuously going through his cell phone text messages, or logging onto his Facebook to see who he has been talking with, then that could be contributing to the fact that he feels smothered.

If he wants to be alone for a short period of time, then you should probably let him. It might not be what you think. Sometimes it could be a financial issue. Males like to be financially secure before they see a woman. If their money is funny, then they tend to not be very confident around females. Men love the feeling of being confident that they can get a woman whatever it is she needs. So if your boyfriend wants to take a break, then he might be taking on an extra job somewhere or trying to make some extra money to pay the bills or take care of you. Keep this thought in mind as well. Be very supportive of him during this time and keep your confidence up. If you act too clingy or get upset at him, then this could diminish his confidence even further that he can take care of you.

Sometimes the situation just needs to be talked over. Usually, it is a misunderstanding, or a lack of communication that has caused an argument. If this is the case, then it is necessary to back up, rethink what has been said and then pick it back up at a later time. Communication is essential for being able to understand each other, and when both of you commit to working on that, then there will be less misunderstandings.

Sometimes if your boyfriend wants to take a break, it might be necessary to just plan a night alone from each other so you both can get your thoughts together. This might be just the thing for both of you, especially if one of you had a bad day at work. Sometimes all he might want to do is let off a little steam. Continue to be there for him and be very patient and kind. He will eventually come around again.